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Embrace this fascinating paradox to calm team members’ anxiety during tough times

With so much uncertainty in the world right now, how do leaders inspire, maintain calm, and communicate in a way that helps others do so, too? In this short video, I share a fascinating paradox that has helped many executive coaching clients pull through tough times and manage anxiety in their organizations. I’d love to hear what you think!

What do you do when nobody knows what to do?

Years ago, when my niece Niki was still developing her vocabulary, she fell and scraped her knee. After a fit of tears and an examination of the wound, Niki turned to her mother and, with a quivering lip, pronounced, “I need some pig stuff!”

Perplexed, her mother asked, “What do you mean by ‘pig stuff?'”

“You know,” Niki responded, “that pig stuff… oink-ment!”

As I sat down to write this blog post, I thought about that story. I get a feeling the whole world could use a bit of “oink-ment” right now, as we collectively try to find our way through these unprecedented, unsettling times.

Throughout these past weeks and months of the global COVID-19 pandemic and unrest and violence in many countries, I’ve been coaching executives from all around the globe, and I’ve noticed common trends and challenges they are experiencing.

As a result of that, I created a series of videos in which I share several simple yet impactful tips that can be implemented immediately, to help you, your family, and your teams thrive during this experience, not just “survive.”

I hope you will find these helpful – that they will serve as a little bit of “oink-ment” for us all.

What do you do when nobody knows what to do? How to lead yourself and others successfully, during times of uncertainty

Over the past weeks and months, I’ve been running webinars/virtual presentations to help clients’ companies and their leadership teams manage effectively through the myriad of unprecedented events that are unfolding across the planet.

At the start of each presentation, I pose a simple question to all participants: “What is one word you would use to describe the biggest challenge you are facing right now?” Attendees type in their answers, and there has been one word which has received the most responses by far during each and every single session. Can you guess what that word is?

“Uncertainty.”

That makes sense. In the modern world, no one has ever been through anything like what we are currently experiencing.

In life – and as leaders – we usually rely on experiences from the past to make plans for the future. But, what approach do you take when something completely unprecedented shows up on your doorstep? When there is no experience to fall back on and there is no clear indication of what is coming?

In essence, what do you do when nobody knows what to do?

I suspect no one will have “the” definitive answers to such a profound question. But I can share with you some tips and tools my clients are implementing which have helped them move forward into this vast unknown.

Below are links to a video series I’ve created that provides some answers to the key questions many of us are asking. In these short-length videos, I share several hints, tips, and tools that can be used immediately to succeed in times of uncertainty.

Here are links to YouTube videos with more hints, tips, and tools:

How to Inspire Others during Challenging Times: “How do I address the sense of uncertainty among team members, when the future is so unclear?”

How to Master Virtual Connections: “How do I make meaningful connections with clients and keep business growing, while working remotely?”

Inspiring Self-Leadership during Challenging Times: “How do I stay productive and focused as I move into this ‘new ab-normal?'”

I hope you found these videos to be helpful as you navigate our new “ab-normal.” 

Overcome the “virtual mental barrier”

From executive coaching clients, I’m hearing phrases like, “Connecting with clients via video is just not as good as in person!” and “Video is definitely second best to communicating with clients live!” I encourage them to get over this “virtual mental barrier.”

If we believe video is second best to in-person, we’ll prove ourselves right — we’ll subconsciously discount it and not bring our best selves to remote conversations. Click on the video below, reframe your thinking, and embrace video as a powerful tool with many strengths and advantages.

The true meaning of lines on faces—and how to use them to connect with others

As we connect virtually with people across the world, we are often getting a closer look at others’ faces than we might get in person. This offers a fantastic opportunity to learn and practice a new skill that can help you better understand people and to connect with them instantly: the epigenetic approach to reading faces.

Ever wonder why someone has lines across their forehead, or lines that come down from the sides of their cheeks, or why some people have two vertical lines in between their eyebrows? None of those lines are caused by aging (cue sigh of relief!) Instead, they are all due to “epigenetics” – how your life events are captured and reflected on your face. Watch this short video I made about this eye-opening, simple-to-learn skill, and uncover the easiest way to making instant and better connections with anyone, anywhere.

P.S. It’s fun, too!

Could this one simple question turn YOUR goals into reality, too?

I send you my very best wishes for a wonderful beginning to a bright, new decade. Just think what the next 10 years will bring! We live in exciting times, for sure.

Speaking of times… It’s that time of the year again — when we set goals for what we want to achieve.

Unfortunately, according to research by the University of Scranton, a staggering 92 percent of people who set New Year’s goals never actually achieve them. What’s behind that sobering statistic?

As my next book will share (more on that in future blogposts), goal achievement is often perceived as “difficult” in our minds, and so we usually prove ourselves right – and it does become difficult!

But what if we’re overthinking this? What if the keys to success in goal achievement are actually much simpler than we make them out to be?

To kick off this new year, I’m sharing in this blog post what I believe to be two foundational keys to success in achieving anything you want. I honestly believe that, if you follow these two simple suggestions below, you can absolutely, positively obtain whatever it is you set out to achieve. And that’s my money-back guarantee (you didn’t pay for this, did you?) 🙂

Two Keys to Success in Goal Achievement

You’ve set your sights on a goal you want to achieve in 2020. Well done! But in the back of your mind, you know you’ve failed in the past, so … how can you make sure this year’s goal turns out differently?

Below are two simple yet profound keys to help you take a goal and turn it into reality:

Key #1: Practice “Implementation Intention.” In this 2.5-minute video, I will share a fascinating technique which helped the British rowing team win the 2000 Olympics. It came down to one simple question which helped this team achieve something that Britain hadn’t done since 1912. How can you apply this idea to help YOU™ achieve what you want in the coming year?

Key #2: Enlist an “Accountability Buddy.”  I also recommend enlisting an “accountability buddy” to hold you bound and focused on reaching your goal. This could be a colleague, friend, spouse, or external coach who helps keep you on track.

Not convinced of the value of an accountability partner? One study released by Dominican University of California found that people were 33% more successful in reaching their stated goals when they sent weekly updates to a boss or colleague.

Even more telling: In his book, It’s Not About the Money, Bob Proctor quotes a Brigham Young University study about people trying to change some aspect of their lives. He reports: 

  • Those who stated, “That’s a good idea,” had only a 10% chance of actually making a change.
  • Those who committed and said, “I’ll do it,” had a 25% chance of making a change.
  • Those who said when they would take action showed a 40% chance of making a change.
  • Those who set a specific plan of how to do it had a 50% chance of making a change.
  • Those who committed to someone else that they would do it had a 60% chance of making a change.
  • And those who set a specific time to share their progress with someone else had a 95% chance of making a change. 

Your accountability partnership has the best chance of succeeding if you reciprocate and help the other person achieve his or her goals as well. Make a schedule with due dates for tasks, and as you work toward completing each specific one, check in with your accountability partner to stay motivated. On a regular basis, ask what the other needs from you, and be sure you know the best ways to motivate each other. If you come across challenges or obstacles on your way to your goals, talk openly about them.

In the meantime, celebrate together when you meet your goals, congratulate yourselves on your progress, and keep at it. With each step you take, you’ll strengthen your self-leadership and further build your Executive Leadership Brand.

Do keep me posted on how you are doing with your 2020 goal achievement!

It’s never too late for an inspiring leader to do “this”

It’s never too late for an inspiring leader to do whatCelebrate wins! 

Years of working with executives has taught me that, unfortunately, we don’t celebrate successes as often as we could.  A few years ago, that learning prompted me to write an article called “The Top 10 Reasons Why Leaders Should Celebrate Wins.”  It was printed in dozens of media outlets around the world, and it was even picked up by bestselling author Guy Kawasaki, who featured it in his book called Enchantment. It’s become such a popular article that I decided to turn it into a short-duration video.

Many leaders wait until it’s the end of the calendar or fiscal year to celebrate successes. But not celebrating more frequently is a lost opportunity for both you as an inspiring leader, and for your team / the people you work with.

Click below to watch my video that shares the top reasons to celebrate wins. I hope you enjoy this gentle reminder of the importance of recognizing successes both for yourself and for others. How will YOU™ celebrate wins between now and the end of the year?

What is the secret to earning more money and getting promoted?

A raise or promotion can be guaranteed by using one simple yet powerful tip. Watch and learn this sure-fire approach that I have shared with tens of thousands of clients around the world—with amazing outcomes. Excerpted from an interview I did as a guest on Christopher Rainey’s HRD Leaders Podcast, this one method can catapult your career trajectory.

The surprising truth about sitting “idly” at work

Thinking strategically is a critically important skill that must be developed in order to get promoted to higher levels of an organization … but most aspiring leaders don’t take time to do it. In this video, I share a client’s story you might relate to and emphasizes the importance of occasionally “doing nothing” on the job. Watch to find out why!

How do you navigate office politics and still stay authentic?

Very few leaders like dealing with organizational politics, but learning to successfully navigate through it is key to success in the work world. In this video, excerpted from an interview with Forbes contributor, Caterina Kostoula, I share a simple yet effective way of managing the seemingly daunting “office politics maze” while helping you to remain authentic and get more done on the job.

What is imposter syndrome, and how do you avoid it?

Whether or not you’ve heard of “imposter syndrome,” I hope you find this video helpful. Excerpted from an interview with Forbes contributor Caterina Kostoula, I define this common challenge that many leaders experience. I also share effective yet simple approaches that many clients have used to successfully lead themselves out of this leadership-brand-busting mindset.